我为何注销“脸书”

By Holly Smen

Why I Deactivated1 My Facebook Account

美国的脸书、推特，中国的微博、微信……各类社交媒体层出不穷。随着社交平台的发展，它们也从原本与亲朋好友沟通的工具变成了展示自己的平台。亲友相聚时最主要的事已不再是闲谈交流，而是以“保存美好回忆”之美名，低头沉迷于拍照、上传和分享。你是否也正沉溺其中，又是否曾想到过离开呢？

In 2004， I began my first year of college， which was also the birth year of Facebook.

Everything changed when Facebook arrived. Pictures could be shared and tagged； you could be Googled， and you could easily check up on an ex.2 （Remember the days of never knowing what his new girlfriend looked like？ Yeah， me either.）

Unlike today， Facebook， in its simplest form， was a way to connect you to your classmates and other fellow college students. I used Facebook to check if the cute guy I met was “in a relationship3.” I used it to group chat with classmates about an upcoming study group or to catch the homework I missed if I was absent from4 class that day.

Before Facebook was Facebook it was “The Facebook.” I recall typing into my computer （yes， there was no mobile site because phones hadnt become “smart” just yet）， www.thefacebook.com. You needed college email address to even join. Before the days of parents “friending” you， Facebook had a targeted purpose：5 to connect you to real people. Now， 11 years later， I no longer have a Facebook account， and I havent logged in since 2011.

Facebook and I had a good run， but I was turned off when it stopped being a place to chat with people I knew and went to class with， and turned into a world of self-absorption， a virtual soapbox for people to complain about very trivial things and a place to post uneducated comments on religion and politics.6 From what I hear now， a persons news feed no longer even resembles what it once was， and is now a hub of news links and ads with 751 of your closest “friends” telling you it is， in fact， snowing outside （in case you are in a windowless bunker somewhere）.7

It was my personal preference to remove myself. I quietly deactivated my account and havent looked back since. I had to disconnect from this virtual world that was always connecting. You would have thought I had decided to become a recluse8 at the time I shut down my account.

I would be out and friends would complain they could not “check me in” to the bar or movies or restaurant we were frequenting9. They were genuinely upset they couldnt tag me on the Internet， even though I was still right beside them. I began to wonder， if a memory is made， and a smartphone isnt there to capture10 it， does the memory exist？

Since the arrival of smartphones， you can take the Internet with you. You no longer have to wait to get somewhere to log on， you are always wired in11. Carrying the Internet in your back pocket or purse has led to this generation， including myself， becoming addicted to social media， and Facebook was at the forefront of it all.12

We are addicted to over-sharing， but its not even honest sharing. We have created personas of ourselves online where we share openly what we want to share， making our lives seems better （or worse） than they are to gain “likes，” not friends.13 In fact， as I sit here typing this， I am hoping someone will read this on the Internet somewhere and “like” it.

Now， technology is great. Social media is necessary at this point， but I enjoy it small doses14. I was never the person to update the Internet on every move I made throughout the day （“Good morning！” “Brushing my teeth.” “Ugh， traffic.” “Happy hour！” “Goodnight world”）.

For every “con” of social media， there are five “pros.”15 It is great when men and women in the military are deployed16 and they can still access their social media accounts and keep in touch with loved ones. Its wonderful you can share your childs pictures with your family scattered17 all across the country or world. My writing would not have the readership18 it currently does without the existence of social media. I realize this， and I would never hope for an alternate universe where there was no one named Mark Zuckerberg19.

My issue with Facebook comes from the fact that social media isnt really “social” at all anymore. At first thought， our ability to connect to everyone around us， albeit20 an over-connection at times， should have naturally turned us into more social creatures. However， for some， it seems to be morphing into21 something entirely different. We are not becoming more social where it matters； we are becoming more social where we want to matter： in the eyes of complete strangers on the Internet.

Should we still be calling it social media？

I feel safe in saying social media is actually quite anti-social. We are gaining followers， but losing friends. We are so over-connected to one another， we disconnect with the people who matter. We are wireless but wired in， leaving no room to see what is going on in the peripheral22. We FaceTime， only not with the person we are sitting across from at dinner. It has gotten to the point where words like “phubbing” （snubbing a human being in favor of technology）23 have been created to diagnose this addiction to our phones.

When was the last time you went to a restaurant， looked around and didnt see a table of people with their noses buried into their phones？

Some are so overly consumed with24 letting others know what they are doing or where they are， they dont even take the time to appreciate what is happening around them and who they are sharing that moment with in real life.

I am not saying revert25 back to old ways； I would never want to. Its a foolish notion to even say we should go back to a time before the uprising of technology. However， every so often26， put your devices down and focus on what is in front of you. Experience things， climb mountains， jump in the ocean or go for a walk. Share an actual conversation with someone without emoticons and hashtags.27 When you stop updating the world on every facet of your life， you will realize how much time that frees up to live.28

1. deactive： 停止使用，注销。

2. tag： 贴标签；check up on： 调查。

3. in a relationship： 处于恋爱关系中。

4. be absent from： 缺席，缺勤。

5. friend： 这里指“加……为好友”；targeted： 有针对性的，特定的。

6. 一直以来，我用脸书都用得很顺利。但后来我就厌倦了，因为它变得不再是一个我和认识的人、一起上课的同学们聊天的场所，而成了一个只关注自我的世界，一个供大家抱怨生活琐事的虚拟演讲台，和一个供人们发表一些关于宗教和政治的无知言论之地。run： 时期，一段时间；turn off： 使某人感到厌倦；self-absorption： 关注自我；virtual： 虚拟的；soapbox： 临时演说台；trivial： 琐碎的。

7. news feed： 动态消息；resemble： 像，类似；hub： 中心，枢纽；bunker： 地堡，掩体。

8. recluse： 隐士。

9. frequent： 经常出入。

10. capture： 拍摄。

11. wire in： 给……接上电源线，此处指连上网。

12. be addicted to： 对……上瘾，沉迷于……；at the forefront： 首当其冲。

13. persona： 表面形象，面具人格； like： 这里指点赞。

14. small dose： 少量。

15. 每当有一个人反对社交媒体，就会有五个人来支持它。con： 反对者；pro： 赞成者。

16. deploy： 部署。

17. scatter： 分散，散布。

18. readership： 读者人数。

19. Mark Zuckerberg： 马克·扎克伯格（1984— ），美国社交网站脸书（Facebook）的创始人。

20. albeit： 尽管。

21. morph into： 演变成。

22. peripheral： 周围的。

23. phubbing： 即phone + snubbing，低头族；snub： 冷落，怠慢。

24. be consumed with： 内心充满了（某种感情 ）。

25. revert： 恢复，回到。

26. every so often： 不时，偶尔。

27. emoticon： 表情符号；hashtag： 话题标签。

28. facet： 方面；free up： 腾出，挪出。