The Countermeasures of Calf Love among Middle School Students



The Countermeasures of Calf Love among Middle School Students

一、Introduction

The word "calf love" first appeared in the late eighties，which refers to the phenomenon that middle school students are too close between heterosexual contacts.But putting forward the definition of "calf love"，also led to a series of problems；one of the most prominent is parents and schools tend to define the concept of "puppy love" with the trend of expansion.In recent years，many experts and teachers have started to notice that this definition’s abuse has led to negative effects，and put forward some criticism，the reason of which is that more and more education psychologists believe that from Freud's theory，we cannot distinguish romance of men with early or late.

二、The Countermeasures of Middle School Students’ Calf Love

For Chinese teachers and parents，"Calf love"is a disaster.But we still have measures to deal with it.

(一)For parents

Firstly，respect children.If the parents can respect their children，cherish their feelings，and they examine such feelings together，which will be better than the mandatory interference.

Correctly treat calf love.To change ideas and focus on understanding.Parents should allow and guide the normal relationship between their children and other guys.

Secondly，parents should put the transitional consideration.If parents can stand in their children’s position to analyze the situation of their views and ideas，they will find that parents have their deficiencies.

Thirdly，parents should offer the guidance scientifically.Parents should talk with children from their point of view to see whether it has an impact on learning，and let the children weigh learning and love which is important.It is best not to show direct intervention，they should be given the chance to make a choice by themselves.

(二)For schools

School is the center of learning activities，and students spend most of their time in school.School affects children greatly whether the school environment is good or not.Firstly，the school should aim at the adolescent health education of sexual physiology and sexual psychology.Let students understand that "calf love" in school has certain harm.Through education，we can enable students to improve their knowledge and attitude.

Secondly，school should organize rich and colorful cultural and sports activities.At present，the western countries create the appropriate teaching situation，inspire students to think，and encourage students to query.

Thirdly，school should establish the psychological consultation clinic.Schools should plan to carry out adolescent sexual knowledge，sexual moral education so as to solve the problems of students.

Fourthly，school should consistently carry out the enlightenment education together，strengthening links with the family and society.School should introduce the puberty and adolescence knowledge through the "School for Parents”，striving for the cooperation of the parents.

(三)For society

Publicize mainstream morality，and purify the social surroundings for the growth of children.

First of all，the relevant institutions should change the media situation where love is often played，instead develop more youth films，TV series and comprehensive programs that will make press formal.The bad press "books and yellow film" videos must be prohibited in student culture.At the same time，publicity the mainstream morality in our country and decrease the induced factor on students’ love and sexual behavior，purify the social environment of middle school students in the process of growth.

三、Conclusion

In short，the parents’ standpoint，"attitude of teachers"，evaluation of students and the social atmosphere largely affect the development of students.Junior students are relatively mature，they need to be guided.With my analysis，I hope this paper can help parents and school to smoothly carry out the education of emotional attitudes and values，to enable students to form healthy psychology and personality.

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山西师范大学外国语学院，山西临汾041000

摘要：初中生早恋现象也越来越多地引起了学校、家庭和社会的关注。本文形成了对初中生早恋的初步认识。经过整理与总结，希望有助于对学生进行正确的情感态度与价值观的教育，使学生形成健康心理和人格。

关键词：初中生；早恋现象；对策

中图分类号：G637.9文献标识码：A文章编号：1006-0049-(2016)06-0087-01

作者简介：赵建青*赵建青(1990-)，女，汉族，山西灵丘人，山西师范大学外国语学院，硕士研究生在读，英语笔译专业。赵阳