How Uncertainty Is the Foundation for Inspired Living如何拥抱生活的不确定性

Tony Fahkry

未来的特点之一就是不确定性，但我们需要把握住一些不变的道理，使用正确的方法，做一些能够让自己不断进步的事情。

“If you want to know your past， look into your present conditions. If youwant to know your future， look into your present actions，” states the Chineseproverb. Life is filled with uncertainty. We rarely have a 1）precise picture ofwhat lies ahead， so we take what arises with determined courage.

It’s natural to believe you are in control of your life， yet uncertainty isrequired because the seeds of opportunity lie in the unexpected.

At a deeper level， we may fear uncertainty because of a lack of lifeskills to 2）navigate through it. Known as a negativity bias， it is a mentalpredisposition to notice and ruminate on negative information while neglectingthe positive.

Author David Rock writes inYour Brain at Work， “The braincraves certainty. A sense ofuncertainty about the future andfeeling out of control both generatestrong limbic system responses.”As a result， your mind looks to yourexternal environment to reinforce asense of balance.

Bruce Hood affirms this in The Self Illusion， “In situations whereoutcomes are important， we get stressed by uncertainty and feel the need todo something so that we can have the illusion that we can control events.”

So， how can you embrace the unexpected without being overcome bythe accompanying emotions？

To embrace uncertainty requires a change in perspective. You must yieldto the intrinsic forces of life， not oppose them. However uncomfortable， youlean in to your fears and insecurities but do not run away from them.

Fear is a confronting emotion， yet you gain self-assurance when youembrace it as a useful emotion. You can turn down the volume on fear bybeing exposed to it a little each time.

Uncertainty is an inner knowing that everything will turn out exactly as itshould. It strengthens your commitment to abide with the natural order of life.

You must be comfortable with uncertainty because it exists in our lives.Don’t retreat from it but expose yourself to it a little each time.

It was the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius who once declared， “If youare distressed by anything external， the pain is not due to the thing itselfbut to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at anymoment.”

Try finding the balance between uncertainty and maintaining controlwithout manipulating outcomes. Let go of any tension， anxiety and fear byembracing the unknown.

Uncertainty helps you to re-evaluate the past and make new choices inlight of what transpires. It presents opportunities to create a compelling futurebased on new information.

1） precise adj. 準确的

2） navigate v. 导航

中国有句老话说：“如果你想知道你的过去，看看你现在的处境就知道了。

如果你想知道你的未来，看看你现在的行动就知道了。”生活充满了不确定性，我们无法准确了解未来会发生什么，所以我们只能勇敢地面对任何发生的事情。

认为自己可以掌控自己的生活是很自然的事，但不确定性也是必不可少的，因为机遇的种子总是蕴藏在意外之中。

在内心深处，我们害怕不确定性，因为我们没有把握能够驾驭它。这被称为消极偏见，是一种心理倾向，即注意和深思消极消息，而忽略积极信息。

作家大卫·洛克在《效率脑科学》一书中写道：“大脑渴望确定性。对未来的不确定性和失控感都会导致强烈的边缘系统反应。因此，你的大脑会从外部环境来加强已知的平衡感。”

布鲁斯·胡德在他的《自我的本质》一书中肯定了这一点：“在结果很重要的情况下，我们会因不确定性而感到压力，并觉得有必要做点什么，这样我们才能产生我们可以控制事件的错觉。”

那么，你如何才能在不被随之而来的情绪所影响的情况下拥抱意想不到的事情呢？

拥抱不确定性需要改变观点。你必须屈服于生命的内在力量，而不是反对它们。无论多么不舒服，你都应该屈服于你的恐惧和不安全感，但不要逃避它们。

恐惧是一种对抗情绪，但当你把它当作一种有用的情绪来接受时，你会获得自信。你可以通过每次接触一点儿来降低恐惧。

不确定性是一种内在的认知，即一切都会完全按照应有的方式发展。它加强了你遵守生活自然秩序的承诺。

你必须悦纳不确定性，因为它存在于我们的生活中。不要退缩，但每次都要让自己接触一点。

罗马皇帝马可·奥勒留曾经宣称：“如果你对任何外在的事情感到痛苦，痛苦不是由于事物本身，而是由于你自己对它的估计； 而这一点你有权随时撤销。”

尝试在不操纵结果的情况下在不确定性和保持控制之间找到平衡。通过拥抱未知来放下任何紧张、焦虑和恐惧。

不确定性可以帮助你重新评估过去，并根据发生的事情做出新的选择。它提供了基于新信息创造令人信服的未来的机会。