如何让对方喜欢你

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有时候我们很难说清楚为什么会喜欢某个人。也许是因为他们温暖的笑容，或者是他们聪慧机敏，又或者只是觉得他们好相处。但科学家们并不满足于这些答案。他们花费数年，研究到底是哪些因素将人与人联系在一起。我们汇总了一些有趣的发现，也许可以帮助你迅速建立更好的人际关系。

Copy the person youre with 模仿对方

When talking to someone， try copying his or her body language， gestures， and facial1 expressions. Research shows people are more likely to like their partners when their friends had been copying their behaviors.

与他人交谈时，你试着模仿对方的肢体语言、手势和面部表情。研究表明，当朋友模仿自己的动作时，人们更容易对对方产生好感。

Compliment2 other people 称赞他人

If you describe someone as nice and kind， people will also think you possess with those same qualities. The reverse3 is also true：if you are constantly talking about people behind their backs， your friends will start to match the negative qualities with you as well.

如果你把某个人描述成真诚、善良的人，人们往往会认为你也具备同样的品质。反之亦然，如果你总在别人背后说坏话，那你的朋友也会认为你可能具有相同的负面品质。

Try to display4 positive emotions 展示积极的情绪

People are easily influenced by the moods of others. They can unconsciously5 feel the emotions of those around them because people naturally mimic6 others movements and facial expressions， which in turn makes them feel something similar to what theyre feeling. If you want to make others feel happy when theyre around you， do your best to communicate positive emotions.

人很容易受他人情绪的影响。他们能不自觉地感受周围人的情绪，因为人们自然而然地会模仿身边人的动作和表情，使得他们对他人的情绪感同身受。如果你想你周围的人感到快乐，那尽你所能展示积极的情绪吧。

Reveal7 your flaws8 from time to time 偶尔暴露自己的缺点

People will like you more after you make a mistake — but only if they believe you are an excellent person. Showing that you arent perfect makes you more vulnerable9 toward the people around you. Research shows when professors do well in the lectures but spill10 coffee at the end of the class， the students rate them higher on likability than other professors.

對优秀的人来说，某个小失误会增加别人对他们的好感。因为展示不完美的一面，会显得他们更容易让人亲近。研究表明，同学们更喜欢那些上课很精彩，但在课程快结束时不小心弄洒咖啡的教授们。

Display a sense of humor展现你的幽默感

Regardless of whether people are thinking about their ideal friends or romantic partners， a sense of humor is really important. Using humor when youre first getting to know someone can make the person like you more.

无论人们想要的是理性的朋友还是浪漫的恋人，具有幽默感真的很重要。在初次见面展现幽默感的人，会让对方更喜欢你。

Show that you can keep their secrets 保守秘密

People place a high value on trustworthiness12 in their relationships. Trustworthiness also has been proved especially important when people are imagining their ideal friends and ideal employees.

人们很重视人际关系中的信誉。信誉也是人们理想中的朋友和员工的一大重要品质。

Tell them a secret分享秘密

Self-disclosure11 may be one of the best relationship-building techniques. You can try this approach as youre getting to know someone. For example， you can start by asking easy questions （like the last movie they saw） to learn about things that mean the most to them in life.

自我坦白或许是建立友谊最好的方式之一。你可以在和对方初次见面时试一试。比如，你先问一些简单的问题（他们上次看过的电影），来了解生活中对他们最重要的事情。

Let them talk about themselves 让他们尽情地谈论自己

Allowing others to talk about themselves may be greatly helpful. In other words， letting someone share a story or two about their life instead of talking about yours could give them more positive memories of your behaviors.

让他们谈论自己非常有益。也就是说，我们让对方多分享他们自己的故事，而不是滔滔不绝谈论我们自己的生活，前者更能给对方留下好印象。

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