“浙江孝贤”春风滋润万众心
2018-02-05王卓琳
王卓琳
让慈孝的温暖阳光撒进每个人的心田
人之行,莫大于孝。在培育和践行社会主义核心价值观过程中,传承中华的孝道文化意义深重。
2017年由浙江省老龄办指导,浙报集团、省老年学学会、省老年事业发展基金会、浙江社会文化研究院、浙江省孝德文化促进会主办,浙江老年报承办的第六届“浙江孝贤”推选活动最近在杭州圆满落幕。13位“浙江孝贤”代表从数百位孝贤人物中脱颖而出。
浙江省領导在接见孝贤时说,百善孝为先,弘扬孝道是中华民族的优良传统。本届“浙江孝贤”的事迹,每一位都令人感动,有的甚至已经超越了大家传统观念中的孝,而是社会志愿的行为,是大爱。
“浙江孝贤”作为全省精神文明建设的一项重要活动,自2010年8月孝贤推选活动启动以来,先后有71名个人和单位获此殊荣,涌现出很多感人的事迹:浙江首家民办养老院创始人,供养着20位老人免费吃住的马福建;十几年坚持“背着”瘫痪妈妈去上学的现代孝女曹秋芳;9户小家庭43口人,尽管人口众多,却始终团结互助、尊老爱幼、亲密无间的胡金凤家庭等等。
传递阳光 把温暖送到老人心房
社会需要正能量,尽孝是家庭的,也是社会的。家庭是社会的细胞,家庭和睦,社会才会更加和谐。九届省政协副主席徐鸿道可以说与“浙江孝贤”有着不解之缘。
作为发起人之一,2010年时任浙江省老年学会会长的徐鸿道感受到,进入老龄社会后,老年人虽然在物质上已经有了充分的保障,但除了物质,从精神层面而言,全社会的敬老、爱老、助老的风气还有很大的提升空间。而孝文化是中华传统文化里的一个重要组成部分。这就是发起第一届“浙江孝贤”推选活动的初衷。
得到各方面支持后的“浙江孝贤”推选活动,有一个宗旨:弘扬中华文化孝道精神,推进社会的精神文明建设。在浙江老年报的承办之下,六届评选活动涌现了一大批先进个人和集体。这些闪光的人在浙江的各个角落里默默地发挥着各自的光芒。让人印象尤为深刻的是孝贤典型集体“杭萧钢构”。
一直以来,为员工盖宿舍,给员工买春运票,成就了杭萧钢构“员工团圆、企业买单”的一段佳话。而事实上,20多年来,这家跻身全国民营500强的上市企业,在招聘时,一直坚持优先聘用有孝心者。在日常生活中,公司时常组织一些秉承着“孝贤”文化精神的企业活动。“工作满10周年的员工父母来杭旅游”活动正是其中之一。活动自2013年开始至今已举办10余次,凡是在杭萧钢构工作满10年的优秀员工,公司会出资分批次邀请他们的父母来杭州参加两日游活动,在员工有空的情况下,公司也会要求他们陪着父母一起游玩。
除了参观景点,杭萧钢构还会邀请各位父母来公司参观,让他们了解子女所在的企业情况,每一次活动,公司董事长单银木都会挤出时间专门陪员工和他们的父母一起坐坐,叙叙家常。
在公司多年的“孝文化”熏陶之下,“百善孝为先,孝为德之本”成了员工们认同并且信守的重要文化,随之而来的是企业中涌现出大批关爱父母、践行孝道的优秀员工。
在企业多年的孝贤文化传播下,员工们彼此间也慢慢增添出一种互助互爱之情,为了帮助有困难的员工,大家自发建立起了关爱制度,每个月把自己工资里的1%捐献出来,以备不时之需。
企业的孝德文化,让杭萧钢构在第三届“浙江孝贤”评选活动中脱颖而出。孝贤团体的集体奖项目,花落“杭萧”,实至名归。
慈孝无界限 长幼代代传
孝贤评选,既可以是个人也可以是集体。在六届获奖人物中,不仅有70岁以上的老年人,孝贤获奖的“大部队”更多的是中年人。特别令人欣喜的是,有很多青少年开始闪现在评选中,包括小学生、初中生、高中生、大学生。
相比往年,第六届“浙江孝贤”涌现出形式多样的孝故事。孝顺养子、孝顺女婿、孝顺孙子、孝顺侄子,也有敬业的养老院护理员、学校和志愿者组织。徐亲青是第六届“浙江孝贤”颁奖典礼上年纪最小的领奖者。16岁的她,就读于绍兴上虞区崧厦中学高二。
在上虞驿亭镇二都村,17岁的女孩徐亲青因家庭变故,从小就要帮爷爷奶奶分担家务。为了照顾年迈多病的爷爷奶奶,她放弃住校,每天清晨5时起床,当同龄人还在美梦中时,徐亲青已在灶台边开始新的一天。她8岁时垫上砖块才能够到灶头,现在已经能做出几个拿手好菜。
徐亲青的奶奶患有严重的腰椎间盘突出症,每年梅雨季节,奶奶就会下不了床,只能躺在家里静养。每天一大早,徐亲青就把早饭和午饭都做好。在喂完奶奶早饭,做好午饭后,她才骑车四五十分钟去上学。放学后,又赶回家做饭,直到晚上8时以后才有时间复习功课。
上初中后学习任务重,很多同学都住校了。徐亲青回家路途很远,奶奶也劝她住校,但徐亲青却坚持不肯住校。“每天回家就能帮爷爷奶奶分担一些家务。”徐亲青说,“我是爷爷奶奶辛苦养大的,现在照顾他们是我该做的。”
尽管家庭条件艰苦,但徐亲青从没有放弃学习,家中贴满了奖状的墙面告诉大家,这个看上去内向的女孩是个成绩多么优秀的学生。徐亲青说,自己最大的梦想就是快快长大,成为一名医生,更好地照顾爷爷奶奶和叔叔,让他们过上好日子。
“我是长在山间的一棵小草,弱小却坚强,我要快快长大,有能力去阻挡生活的风雨,为辛苦养育我的爷爷奶奶撑起一片幸福的蓝天。”徐亲青说,从懂事以来,得到了很多好心人的帮助,每年她都会给这些好心人写感谢信,汇报自己的学习情况。今后她会照顾好爷爷奶奶,更加努力地学习,不辜负好心人的期望,尽全力回报社会。
日行一孝 在幼小的心灵播种
如何让“浙江孝贤”产生更深远的影响,一直是主办方和承办方思考的问题。本届获奖集体余姚市大隐镇中心学校给了大家另一种思路。endprint
大隐镇是名闻遐迩的慈孝之乡,在大隐镇中心学校,慈孝文化教育的工作开展得如火如荼。“日行一孝,不光说,还有记录。”作为大隐镇中心学校的教师代表黄燕青说,在大隐镇中心学校,孝行是一种习惯。
在每个学生入学时,学校都会发放一本记录册开展“日行一孝”活动,要求学生每天实实在在至少做一件孝敬长辈的事情,并能常常记下孝心日记。刚开始时,黄燕青说,孩子们会有不适应的过程,存在敷衍了事。所以,在日常的引导过程中,老师们也会想方设法与家长沟通,让孩子们在家里,把“孝”变成职责。
一次,班上的一個孩子跑来对黄燕青说:“妈妈表扬我了。”她发现,孩子在受到鼓励后,更有动力在以后的日常生活中去实施一些孝行。所以,学校早就开通了校园网、家校通,方便家校联系,促进了家校沟通,让家长鼓励自己的孩子在家从小事做起,记录孩子令人感动的孝行,替代摆拍、敷衍了事。
此外,在校园里,新旧两幢教学楼分别命名为孝亲楼、敬长楼,走廊命名为“孝子廊”,楼梯命名为“慈孝楼梯”;校园中的24棵不同类型的树分别以古代二十四孝命名,如曾参树、董永树、丁兰树等,让学生在日常的学习生活中,能时刻了解到那些感人至深的故事。
同时,学校也通过办家长学校和讲座,邀请专家对家长、学生进行孝德教育,邀请孝子孝媳来校作报告,访谈孝子孝媳等活动,展示孝文化的内涵,使学生明白,孝是对父母、老人的尊敬、关怀、体恤和赡养,孝是为人子女的责任和义务,让学生的心灵走进孝文化。
大隐镇中心学校率先结合本地历史人文资源,因地制宜地编写了教材《孝德雅行·学生读本》。这本教材与大家想象中的传统孝德教育教材有些不同,比如从教材的编写、内容的选取就能看出,学校孝德教育的核心理念——不提倡说服式教育,而是通过故事、新闻以及身边的孝心事迹,让学生有更直观真实的感受。
近年来,学校有20余人次被评为余姚市优秀少先队员、余姚市美德少年、余姚市雏鹰少年等。彭妹、毛佳梦等同学被评为余姚市“十佳小孝星”。毕业于大隐镇中心学校的金森兴,他的“孝心”感动了全国人民,入选“中国好人榜”。
“浙江孝贤”活动在潜移默化中滋润着每个人的心田。
孝贤到底是什么?在浙江老年报的回访中,许多00后的学生所理解的孝是“赡养父母,尊敬长辈”。
其实,孝,不仅是让老人活得长,更是要让老人活得健康,活得精彩。孝,不仅是对待自家老人的人伦本分,更是“老吾老以及人之老”的大爱无疆。在这个全新的时代,孝道也焕发出崭新的光彩。
如今已推行了六届的“浙江孝贤”活动,成了浙江精神文明建设的一张金名片。而徐鸿道却说,这不过是万里长征迈出的第一步。他希望浙江探索出一条路子,让全社会、全国人民、全国各地都能弘扬孝道精神,践行孝道文化。如此,社会的慈孝之风方能温暖每个人的心田。
Zhejiang Promotes
Filial Piety
By Wang Zhuolin
Toward the end of 2017, the curtain descended on the province-wide event on finding Filial Piety Models. The event was jointly sponsored by Zhejiang Office of Elders Affair, Zhejiang Daily Press Group, Zhejiang Gerontics Association, Zhejiang Development Foundation for Elders Undertakings, Zhejiang Social Culture Institute, and Zhejiang Association for Promotion of Family Piety Culture, Zhejiang News for Elders. It was the sixth of the annual event. Thirteen people were eventually selected as the Filial Piety Persons of the Year.
This event is a key part of the provinces efforts to promote advanced culture and ethics. Since its inception in August 2010, seventy-one individuals and institutions have been honored for their down-to-earth and heart-touching care for elders. For example, Ma Fujian, the founder of the provinces first private nursing home, provides free of charge care services for 20 elders. Ma Qiufang carried her paralyzed mother to school for over ten years. Nine families with a total population of 43 people take care of each other.
Ge Huijun, a provincial government official, met with the 13 models of the year at the closing ceremony. She observed that some people care for their own elders whereas some care for elders in communities and that what they did have exceeded the traditional practice.endprint
Xu Hongdao, one of the founders of the event and chairperson of Zhejiang Gerontics Association since 2010, has participated in all the six annual selection procedures. In retrospect, he says he is most impressed by Hangxiao Steel Structure Co, an enterprise based in Hangzhou.
Over the past 20 some years, Hangxiao Steel Structure has grown into one of the citys top 500 businesses. It stands out as a filial piety model because its corporate philosophy emphasizes love and care for elders. The company invites the parents of employees whose employment with the company have reached the threshold of ten years to Hangzhou and the company gives them a two-day tour around Hangzhou free of charge. The company also invites parents to visit the company and hold a meeting with them. The president of the company always finds time to sit and chat with them. It has been doing this since 2013 and more than 10 groups of parents have visited Hangzhou and the company.
Xu is also impressed with the young people who take care of their parents and grandparents even though middle-aged people still play the biggest role in caring for elders.
The 16-year-old Xu Qinqing was the youngest filial piety person of the year in 2017. She has grown up with her grandparents as her parents divorced when she was very young. In order to take care of her grandparents, she gets up early at five oclock and prepares breakfast and lunch. After helping her grandmother with breakfast, she bikes about 40-50 minutes to school. After school, she comes back to cook supper. It isnt until eight oclock in the evening that she has time to do homework. Xu has adhered to the timetable and routine since she was eight years old. When she was in primary school, she didnt have to bike that far away. After she went to middle school, which is a boarding school located far away, she chose not to live on the campus. She chose to stay with her grandparents. She is a promising young scholar and she wants to grow up fast so that she could be a doctor and take care of her grandparents better.
That Dayin Town Central School of Yuyao was picked as the person of the year in 2017 demonstrates how the organizers intend the selection to go in the future and where their concerns lie. Dayin Town has a long history of people who practice filial piety for their elders. The school gives every first grader a notebook in which they are to write down what they do for their parents and grandparents. Some children dont know what to do or what to write at first. Communications between the school and parents usually help get the idea across. Children pick up the concept of family piety and care for elders. If they help and get encouraged from their parents, they become excited and often proudly tell their teachers their parents praised them for their efforts.
Dayin Town Central School compiled a reader on care for elders based on local history. Unlike most textbooks that focus upon concepts and ideas, the reader tells stories from the past and relates relevant news stories today so that students learn from what they are quite familiar with.
Xu Hongdao says that as a senior advisor he hopes that Zhejiang can blaze new trails for the whole country in this aspect. He wishes to see the whole nation act to love and respect elders and take care of elders better.endprint