从容直面看颜的世界

从容直面看颜的世界

从古到今，无论中外，人们从未停止过对外表美丽的追求。从“貌若潘安”“看杀卫玠”“沉鱼落雁”“闭月羞花”等成语里，我们能看到我国古代美人们因其美貌而万代留名。《世说新语》里甚至有一个《容止》章节专门记录美男子的容貌和举止。再看西方神话中争夺“最美女神”称号的三女神、引发特洛伊战争的海伦、自恋至死也不忘孤芳自赏的纳西索斯，以及如今美国电影网站的“世界最美面孔100人”评选，我们很容易发现，追求视觉美是全人类的共性。

尽管这是个看颜的世界，但这并不是美人的天下。不可否认美人在当今时代可以靠外表大幅拉动经济，但掌握各领域命脉的依旧是有头脑的人。能够集美貌和智慧于一身固然最好，但对于绝大部分相貌平平的芸芸众生而言，在全世界都看颜的压力之下，保障幸福感的办法有三个：一、全心全意地接受自己外貌上的不完美；二、每个人都有自己的内在闪光点，颜值再高也无法替代，要学会欣赏这些优点；三、以后天锻炼出来的能力和培养出来的高情商完胜高颜值。时下流行一句话：“主要看气质。”气质靠的就是自内而外流露的自信，以及头脑中久经沉淀的智慧。

本期“卷首语”和“最·专题”栏目的文章中都出现了不少描述外貌的词汇和表达，同学们读完以后可以回头作汇总并温习一下哦。—Roza

马修·迪克斯（Matthew Dicks）是美国的天才说书人、作家兼小学教师，著有《我的幻影朋友》（Memoirs of an Imaginary Friend）等四部畅销小说，其作品被翻译成了25种语言。同时他还是摇滚歌剧作家、婚礼DJ、播客节目主持人、人生导师和西兰公国（The Principality of Sealand）的勋爵，可谓身份众多。他对这个世界“看脸”的风气感受颇多。他决定从自己做起，改变这种风气。于是他为自己定下了一个目标：无论是当面还是私下里，都不要对他人的外表发表负面评论。

I saw a middle-aged man yesterday wearing a pink shirt that didn't quite cover his1）belly， a pair of yellow shorts， work boots without laces and no socks. I turned to comment on his appearance to my wife， but then I stopped myself.

We have no right or reason to think less of this person because of his physical appearance.

A person should be able to wear whatever he or she wants without ever having to suffer a negative word about it from anyone， to their face or behind their back. Ever.

As a teacher， I have a2）principle of never commenting on a student's physical appearance，including3）complimenting a student on the way he or she looks. Instead of telling a student how much I like his haircut or her new dress， I4）restrict my comments to the things that truly matter：behavior， effort，5）determination，6）integrity，7）academic achievement， or8）sportsmanship.

While I have no reason to avoid complimenting adults on their physical appearance， I'd like to think that I could avoid giving negative comments of any kind at all times. I know this is unrealistic. Even if I can ignore a person's9）odd10）combination of clothing （and I usually can），there are so many other11）aspects of a person's physical appearance that might12）elicit a negative comment： unusual haircuts； numerous13）tattoos；14）excessive15）plastic surgery；16）gaudy jewelry；17）ostentatious18）displays of designer labels；weird piercings； overdone makeup. The list is endless.

Face Up to the Image-Obsessed World