How to use body language effectively

2020-08-20江苏泰州市姜堰区罗塘高级中学钱盈盈

疯狂英语·新读写 2020年8期

关键词：词数消极肢体

江苏泰州市姜堰区罗塘高级中学钱盈盈

面部表情、眼神、头部的运动、手势以及身体的姿态等这些肢体语言可以完成很多口头语言无法完成的沟通任务。那么，如何恰当地运用肢体语言呢？

难词探意

1. gaze /geɪz/ n. 凝视；注视

2. spine /spaɪn/ n. 脊柱；脊椎

3. parallel /΄pærəlel/ adj. 平行的

4. vibes /vaɪbz/ n. 情绪；气氛

5.disingenuous/ˌdɪsɪn΄dʒenjuəs/adj. 不真诚的

6. bilateral /ˌbaɪ΄lætərəl/ adj. 双边的；双方的

7. intimidating /ɪn΄tɪmɪdeɪtɪŋ/ adj. 吓人的；令人胆怯的

Body language is an important part of being an effective communicator. You can make a positive impression on other people when you learn to use good body language. Here are some effective tips.

Get in the right mindset

One of the easiest ways to ensure friendly body language is to go into a room with friendly intentions. “Before meeting someone, imagine that you really like the person,” said Elena Ledoux. “Then when you start the meeting, try to find reasons why you sincerely like him or her. This leads to a friendlygaze, relaxed body posture, and more smiling.” When you make someone feel special, he or she is more likely to go the extra mile for you in the future.

Perfect your posture

The foundation of good body language is great posture. Straighten yourspine,relax your shoulders and keep your chinparallelto the floor. You'll also want to keep your arms in a position that doesn't close off your chest. “Keep your body open or unblocked,” said John P. Garrison, a psychologist and body language expert. “We tend to cover our chests when we feel anxious or threatened so when they're open, we're seen as honest.”

Flash a smile

Everyone knows that smiling gives off positivevibesand shows people you're open to conversation. But not just any smile will do; in fact, adisingenuousone could wind up backfiring. “Honest emotions arebilateral,” said Garrison. “That means they show up on both sides of the face. So make sure if you are going to smile, that it is a full and genuine one. A smile on one side of the face is unconsciously interpreted as contempt, so a quick grin or an attempted polite one-sided smile is not a good idea.”

Make eye contact

Strong eye contact is key to appearing friendly and confident. “Looking someone in the eyes is toointimidating,” body language expert Lillian Glass said. “Instead, look at the total face for one second.” Obviously, you should also avoid looking around the room or checking your phone.

Shake on it

A firm handshake makes a strong first impression. Reach out a hand vertically and meet the other person in the middle. “Don't attempt to dominate nor be submissive in your hand positioning,” said Mark Anderson, director of training and development at Anderson Investigative Associates. “Move your hand straight forward and with some measure of firmness. This is not the time for dead fish hands, and if your hands are sweaty, wipe it off.”

Use hand gestures

Once you've started your conversation, you'll want to let your body move naturally. “Because we freeze when we feel threatened, minimal body movement can be seen as attempting to be dishonest or deceitful,” said Garrison. “Research shows that people who speak with more hand gestures are believed to be more honest than those who do not use their hands when they talk.”

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Apart from the tips for effective body language mentioned in the text, can you find more ways to use body language properly?

主题应用·语库构建

Ⅰ. 热词积累

动作类肢体语言

1. greet 迎接；和……打招呼

2. approach 接近

3. defend 保护；保卫

4. grin 露齿笑；咧嘴笑

5. frown 皱眉

6. hug 拥抱

7. yawn 打哈欠

8. bow 鞠躬

9. shake hands 握手

10. interpret 把……理解为；诠释

11. perceive 察觉到；将……理解为

12. stare 凝视

13. react 回应

14. weep 哭泣

15. doubt 怀疑

16. nod 点头

17. bend 屈身

18. touch 触碰

肢体语言的心理或情感效应

1. angry 生气的

2. confident 自信的

3. confused 困惑的

4. embarrassed 尴尬的

5. curious 好奇的

6. interested 感兴趣的

7. puzzled 迷惑的

8. disgusted 厌恶的；反感的

9. excited 兴奋的

10. enthusiastic 热情的

11. satisfied/content 满意的

12. sensitive 敏感的

13. worried/concerned 忧虑的

14. scared/frightened 害怕的

15. indifferent 冷漠的

16. mild 温和的

17. subjective 主观的

18. objective 客观的

19. neutral 中立的

20. ambiguous 含糊的

21. negative 消极的

22. positive 乐观的

23. supportive 支持的

24. approving 同意的

25. opposed 强烈反对的

肢体部位

1. head 头

2. face 脸

3. cheek 脸颊

4. eye 眼睛

5. nose 鼻子

6. eyebrow 眉毛

7. tooth 牙齿

8. mouth 嘴巴

9. ear 耳朵

10. chin 下巴

11. elbow 肘部

12. hand 手

13. thumb 大拇指

14. forefinger 食指

15. middle finger 中指

16. ring finger 无名指

17. little finger 小指

18. leg 腿

19. knee 膝盖

20. foot 脚

肢体语言功能

1. communicate 沟通

2. express/convey 表达

3. relieve 缓解

4. imply 暗示

5. replace 代替

6. strengthen 加强

7. distinguish 区分

8. make inferences 推断

Ⅱ. 美句背诵

1. With so many cultural differences between people, it is lucky to have some similarities in body language. 人与人之间有这么多的文化差异，但幸运的是，人们的肢体语言有一些相似之处。

2. Making a fist and shaking it means that someone is angry and threatening another person. 紧握拳头并摇晃它意味着某人生气且正在威胁另一个人。

3. Body language is the non-verbal way of communication that we use to reveal our true feelings and emotions. 肢体语言是我们用来表达真实感受和情绪的非语言的交流方式。

4. Being aware of negative body language of others can allow you to pick up on unspoken issues. 注意别人的消极的肢体语言可以让你意识到隐含的问题。

5. There's a common perception that people who touch their faces while answering questions are being dishonest. 人们普遍认为，在回答问题时触摸脸部的人是不诚实的。

6. Try to hold the other person's gaze for a few seconds. This will show that you're sincere and engaged. But, avoid turning it into a staring match! 可以试着与对方进行几秒钟的目光交流。这会让你看起来非常真诚和投入。但是，不要把它变成一场盯人的比赛！

7. Truth reveals itself more clearly through our action than it does through our words. 实际行

动远比话语更能清楚地揭示真理。

8. The body says what words cannot. 身体能传达出语言无法表达的东西。

9. A single look can convey so much. 一个表情能传达很多信息。

10. When it comes to using the eyes as nonverbal communication, eye contact immediately comes to your mind. 当论及使用眼睛进行非语言交际的时候，眼神交流就会立刻浮现在你的脑海中。

11. All animals use body language to organize and run their private and social lives. 所有动物都会用肢体语言来组织和管理它们的私生活和社会生活。

12. Body language may be the determining factor in a job interview. 肢体语言可能是求职面试中的决定性因素。

Ⅲ. 读后创写

假定你是李华，你所在的班级将举行一场以“body language”为主题的演讲比赛。请你写一份演讲稿，要点如下：

1. 肢体语言的重要性；

2. 肢体语言在世界各地具有差异性；3. 学习肢体语言的必要性。

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