也许
2019-09-12陈佳
陈佳
When you have a tough time making a choice， it can drive you crazy...and waste a lot of time. Heres the internal dialogue of an indecisive1 person.
Maybe I should do this.
No， maybe I should really do that.
I dont know what I should do.
OK， Ill go with my first idea.
No， thats not the best idea.
Oh， I cant stand this. Just decide already.
I cant.
Why not？
Its not so simple.
Its complex; Im complex.
Youre not complex， youre neurotic2.
No， Im not.
Yes， you are.
All right. Stop all this going back and forth and just decide already.
Youre right. So maybe Ill do this！
Is there any help for indecisive people？ Must they continue to torture3 themselves with even the most mundane4 decisions？
If you are struggling with interminable5 indecisiveness6， here are a few ideas to help you move forward.
◎In real life， as opposed to your fantasy life， there is rarely an absolute best decision. Sure， you want all your decisions to be safe and the “right” one. Yet， decisions are a risky business. By making a decision， you risk being wrong. By taking a stand， you risk being ridiculed. By making a choice， you risk regretting it. Can you take steps to minimize these risks？ Of course. Will you ever eliminate7 all risk？ Never. But， is it better to make a decision than to be bogged8 down with indecisiveness？ Yes！Yes！And Yes！
◎Trust your intuition9.
You probably equate10 more thinking with better thinking. However， too much thinking reaches a point of diminishing returns. Then what happens？ The paralysis11 of analysis. Too many options， too much reviewing of your choices stirs up anxiety. Then， you freeze！ If you are having difficulty making a decision， try trusting your intuition. Intuition is not the enemy. Unless you are on a destructive path， it is most often your wise friend.
◎Enough is enough！
If you are second-guessing every decision you make， then driving yourself crazy with buyers remorse12， tell yourself “enough is enough.” Make a decision. Its done. For better or for worse， let go. Then， use your beautiful brain to get on with your life.
當你很难做出选择的时候，那会让你发疯……并浪费你很多时间。下面是一个优柔寡断的人的内心的对话。
也许我该这么做。
不，也许我真的应该那样做。
我不知道该怎么办。
好的，我会按我的第一个想法来。
不，这不是最好的主意。
哦，我受不了。先决定吧。
我不能决定。
为什么不能呢？
它不是那么简单。
它很复杂，我很复杂。
你不复杂，你是神经质。
不，我不是。
是的，你是。
好吧，停止这一切来来回回，现在就决定吧。
你说得对。所以也许我要这么做！
这对优柔寡断的人有什么帮助吗？他们必须继续为最平凡的决定而折磨自己吗？
如果你正在与无休止的犹豫不决作斗争，这里有几个方法可以帮助到你。
◎在现实生活中，与幻想生活相反，很少有绝对最佳的决定。
当然，你希望你的所有决定都是安全的，并且是正确的。然而，决策是一项风险业务。做一个决定，你就有犯错的风险。站出来，你就有被嘲笑的危险。做一个选择，你就有可能后悔。你能采取措施把这些风险降到最低吗？当然。你会消除所有的风险吗？从未。但是，做决定总比陷入优柔寡断的困境要好吗？对！对！是的！
◎相信你的直觉。
你可能把更多的思考与更好的思考划上等号。然而，过多的思考达到了收益递减的地步。那会发生什么？分析的瘫痪。太多的选择，对选择太多的回顾会引起焦虑。然后，你就僵住了！如果你难以做出决定，那就试着相信你的直觉。直觉不是敌人。除非你走的是一条毁灭性的道路，否则它往往是你明智的朋友。
◎够了就够了！
如果你对你所做的每一个决定都想得太多，然后带着决定后的懊悔而把自己逼疯，那就告诉你自己“够了就足够了”。作出决定。完成了。不管是好是坏，放下吧。然后，用你美丽的大脑继续你的生活。
