B Good To Yourself

胡兰

导读：善待自己要从小事着手，筋疲力尽的时候让自己放松一下，偶尔来顿丰盛的午餐犒劳自己，采纳积极的建议缓解消极的情绪，时常站在镜子前告诉自己已经很棒。

“Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.” —Lama Yeshe

All too often were unforgiving and cruel to ourselves in a way wed never treat our friends. Wed never look a friend in the eyes and tell her shes not good enough. Wed never beat a friend up over one mistake he made years ago. Wed never expect a friend to move mountains when shes exhausted and clearly needs a rest. Why do we sometimes do these things to ourselves？

So often when we think about self-love， we think about the big picture—forgiving ourselves for past mistakes and accepting ourselves， imperfections and all. But actually we can love ourselves through small， maybe even tiny acts of kindness. For me， that means allowing myself to relax if I need to， even if I feel like I should be productive. It means treating myself to a nice lunch every now and then， even if I feel I should save money. It means responding to negative thoughts in my head with the same uplifting advice Id give my sister. Sometimes it also means seeing in the mirror that little girl who I used to be—the little girl who always did her best and wanted nothing more than to have someone hug her and tell her it was good enough. Its my job to do that now.

Today， give yourself the consideration and kindness youd extend to the people you love. If youre dissatisfied with your progress， remind yourself of all youve accomplished. If youre tired， take it easy. All the goodness you put out into the world starts with how you treat yourself.

Vocabulary

gentle adj. 溫和的

exhausted adj. 筋疲力尽的

uplifting adj. 令人振奋的，使人开心的

（Are you really good enough to yourself？）

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