中国和美国家庭教育的比较研究

内蒙古自治区鄂尔多斯市敖勒召其海军希望小学 康 秀

Ⅰ.Discussion

1.Comparison of American and China Family Education.

1.1The definition of Family Education

Family Education in the home by their parents or other older people, the younger generation,and other family members,purposeful, conscious education.

Features:

Pilot: The family is the cradle of the individual, the first place of children receives the education since they were born, that is the first class in their lifetime; Parents are the first teacher for the children,therefore, the parent’s education for the children is pilot.Generally speaking, after three years when the children born they get into a infancy time, from 3 years old to six years old that is early education ages, which is very vital for the mental and physical development.Many abilities have developed from the infancy ages, such as speaking, actions and many habits and so firth.

Continuity: A person when he or she was born, she or he spend most of the time in his family,getting along and living together with their parents, receiving the family education all the time.Of course, this kind of education is different from the school education.But every action of parents affects and educates their children.So this kind of education would affects their children’s habit and the mortal the whole life, so some educators deem the parents as the tenured teacher and consider the family education as the everlasting education.

Endophilicity and authority:parents and children live together for a long time; they educate and take care of their children every time and everywhere, so the blood relationship is formed, while the other educators can not come to.At the same time, children always depend their parents on their living necessity and so on, so the parents have the authority to their children.

1.2.The Differences in Family Education between American and China

1.2.1 The Comparison of Concepts of Family Education

The different education concepts between America and China lead children to receive different education.In China many parents only care about whether the children have a promising future a good job a good life or not.Based on these expectations the majority of parents feel that their responsibility for their children is to create as well conditions as possible they can so that the children will not worry about anything in the future.Chinese parents would like to provide everything what they can for their children in the process of children’s growth.In short they would like to sacrifice anything if their children can live better with their help.Therefore in the process of children’s growth the most important thing the parents concerning is to develop their children’s intellect except for caring children’s daily life.In order to make their children have a good performance in study become outstanding or even become a famous person in the future they would not let children do anything except studying.Contrastively American parents generally believe that the growth of children must rely on their own strength and experiences.Based on this concept most American parents emphasize more to train their children’s ability of independence once they are born because they think that children should form a self-supporting will and the capacity to live independently since their childhood.And the capacity comes from the training in the early age.

1.2.2 The Comparison of Contents of Family Education

The aim of family education is to foster the children to grow in some direction by family education.It is the restrictive factor for the direction of family education deciding the general effect of it.So the aim of family education is the core of family education and the fundamental reason for the differences between the two countries on family education.There is an essential difference between two countries’ aim of family education with to expect the child to become an outstanding personage and to hope the child to be a comprehensive and independent person giving expressions to the difference.To most Chinese parents the aim is expecting their child to be a “dragon” which is “Wang zi cheng long” in Chinese.But American parents take hoping the child to be a man of ability which is “Wang zi cheng ren ”in Chinese as their aim .For Chinese parents their aim is to do anyting to support their children to get high marks.What forms apparent contrast to it is America parents give their children more training about improving abilities? They try to train their children to have the ability of adapting to environmental variety and the ability of living independently.

1.2.3 The Comparison of Methods of Family Education

The differences of concepts and aim cause the children to be taught by different ways and methods.In Chinese family affected by Chinese traditional culture parents educate children by “control” and “seal”type.There are three tips for it: 1 Chinese parent prepares all things for their children in daily life.In Chinese family children don’t have to do any housework.2 Chinese parents protect the children to excess in social activities.Many children are prevented from exposure to the outer world because their parents worry about children’s being affected by bad things 8.3 Chinese parents have a rather strict attitude toward children’s study.Parents regard the grades as the only standard for future success.

2.The Reasons of Different Family Education between America and China

⑴ Different historical background.

⑵ Different economic form.

⑶ D i f f e r e n t s o c i a l conditions.

⑷ Different traditional culture.

Ⅱ.Conclusion

All in all, there are many differences between China and Western family education and each has its strong points and weak points.We should reject the dross and absorb the cream of them, advance the family educational modernization instantaneously.