别落单，你也可以朋友成群！

Be Left Out or Make Friends？

Its hard when a best friend isnt around-maybe because you have moved to a different school or a different class， or maybe youre just home sick for the day. Recess or lunchtime can feel lonely without friends around. Will it ever feel the same？ You want to have new friends， but how do you make them？ Maybe it seems like everybody else already has their friends. But remember， theres always room for more friends.

Start by looking around your classroom-think about which kids youd like to play with at recess. Look for chances to say hi to them， smile， and be friendly. Offer to share something or give a compliment. Invite someone to play with you or say， “Do you want to sit here？” in the lunchroom. When youre at recess， walk over to kids you want to play with， act friendly， and say， “Hi， can I play， too？” or just join in.

If you have trouble doing this or if youre feeling shy， ask your teacher to help you make new friends. Teachers are usually pretty good at matching up friends. The best way to make friends is to be a friend. Be kind， be friendly， share， say positive things， offer to help-and pretty soon， youll have one， or two， or even more new friends.

You might still miss that special best friend. But when you see each other， you can share something you didnt have before she left： you can introduce her to your new friends！

How to Get Along with People

Then comes the question： How do you start？ How do you get along with people？

Harsh truth of life-you cant please everybody. But since people are social creatures （unless youre a total scrooge）， you just have to learn how to get along. Most of these tips are common sense. Still， we lapse in following them. So take these tips as reminders on how to get along with people.

Here are 5 Dos to help you get along with people：

√ Greet people

Smile. Greet people a good day （or whatever time of day it is）. It doesnt do people harm. It also gives people the impression that youre open and approachable.

√ Share

Be it some mints in your pocket or a bag of chips， ask if people would like some，followed by a handing gesture.

√ Lend a helping hand

Simple gestures like helping people carry a load or holding a door for them go a long way.

√ Smile

Perhaps the easiest way to introduce yourself， smiling is part of being human. Theres a great reason why it takes less muscles to smile than to frown： Nature just intended us to smile more.

√ Respect others

The worlds full of differences. However， prejudice is so last century. So learn to acknowledge peoples uniqueness and respect them. Its the only way other people will tolerate your own unique personality.

Here are 5 Donts to help you get along with people：

Dont be so touchy

It doesnt really help you to be so sensitive. If you raise hell for the trivial things， then ask yourself， “Why am I offended by this？ Why do I feel annoyed？” Introspection will show you that its not really that big a deal at all.

People joke around and， most of the time， these can be playful remarks with no intention of offending you. As long as it doesnt really hurt your pride and principles， just go along for the ride.

Dont lose your temper

Quick to lose your temper？ Try slow-counting one to ten. Breathe. Getting angry easily over trivial things will make people move away from you.

If you constantly get angry （or even look it）， youll easily ward people off， even if you dont mean to. You wont become approachable with such an angry demeanor. Besides， too much anger brings too much stress. And thats not good for you at all.

Dont be annoying

There are several ways you can annoy people， even if you dont mean it. Never expect that every days a great day for everyone. We all have good days and bad days. If you sense other people having a bad day and wanting some space and time to themselves， give them that. If people tell you frankly that one of your habits annoys them， better start making some changes. Chances are， theyre for the better.

Dont gossip

No one likes people who talk behind their backs. You might be the life of the water cooler， but everyone will start to hate you and what you do. Your trust factor goes down every time you gossip.

Dont be an arrogant jerk

Sheer arrogance has no room in this world. Theres absolutely no reason to think lowly of other people. So dont carry a demeaning attitude. Everyones got brains， and you dont know what other people are really capable of.

落单还是交朋友？

最要好的朋友不在身边真难熬——也许是因为你转到新的学校或班级，又或者那天你因病在家休养。课间休息或午餐时间没有朋友在身边，感觉真孤独。你一直会这样吗？你希望交些新朋友，但是该如何结交他们呢？每个人似乎都有自己的朋友了。但是你要记住，朋友总是多多益善的。

就从环顾你的教室开始吧——想想在课间休息时你想和哪些孩子一起玩耍。寻找机会与他们打招呼，面带微笑，亲切友善。主动分享或表示称赞。邀请他人与你一起玩耍，或者在学校食堂里说：“你想坐在这里吗？”课间休息时，走到你想与其一同玩耍的孩子身边，友善地说：“嗨，我能一起玩吗？”或干脆直接加入。

如果你没办法这么做，或者感到害羞，可以请老师帮助你结交新朋友。老师通常很善于撮合朋友。结交朋友最好的方法就是表现得像个朋友。亲切友好，与人分享，言谈积极，乐于助人——用不了多久，你将会拥有一个、两个，甚至更多的新朋友。

你也许仍然会想念那位特别的好朋友。可是当你们再见面时，你可以与她分享在她离去前你不曾拥有的东西：你可以将她介绍给你的新朋友！

如何与人相处

接下来的问题就是：你该如何开始？应该怎样与他人相处呢？

记住一条人生硬道理——你不可能讨好每一个人。不过，既然人是社会性动物（除非你是个十足的守财奴），你要做的就是学会如何与人融洽相处。以下这些小贴士大多是基本常识，但我们还是会不时出错。所以，把这些小贴士当做如何与人相处的提示吧！

以下是帮助你与人相处的五个必做项：

√ 问候挂嘴边

要面带微笑。祝愿他人拥有开心的一天（或者一天中的任何时间）。这对他人没什么害处，还能给他人留下大方随和的印象。

√ 乐于分享

袋子里常备薄荷糖或一袋炸薯片，问问别人是否也想尝一尝，同时递给他们。

√ 伸出援手

一些简单的举动——例如帮别人提东西或是帮他们拉门——就能产生不俗的效果。

√ 笑脸迎人

这也许是最简单的自我介绍方式了。微笑是我们作为人类的要素之一。微笑比皱眉所用的肌肉少得多是大有原因的：大自然也希望我们多微笑。

√ 尊重他人

这个世界充满了差异，但是偏见早就过时了。所以，学着肯定他人的独特之处并尊重他们。这也是让他人包容你独特个性的唯一方法。

以下是帮助你与他人相处的五个禁做项：

别太敏感

过于敏感对你来说真的没什么好处。如果你为了一些鸡毛蒜皮的事情而大吵大闹，不妨问问自己：“我为什么会被这件事触怒？我为什么觉得生气？”自我反省会让你发现，这实际上根本不算什么。

人们喜欢随便开玩笑，大多数情况下，这些都是戏谑的话语，并非有意冒犯。只要它并没有真正触犯你的自尊和原则，你也不妨与民同乐吧。

别乱发脾气

你很容易发脾气吗？试试从一慢慢数到十。深呼吸。为一点小事动怒会让人们远离你。

如果你经常生气（或者看起来像生气的样子），人们就会对你敬而远之，即便这并不是你的本意。这种易怒的态度让你变得难以接近。此外，太多怒气会带来很大压力。这对你也没有一点好处。

别惹毛他人

惹人生气的方式有很多种，即便这只是你的无心之失。不要指望所有人的每一天都能一帆风顺。我们的心情都会有起伏的时候。如果你感到别人心情不好，希望有一点独处的空间和时间，那就赶紧闪开。如果别人坦诚地告诉你，你的某个习惯让他们心烦，那么你最好开始有所改变。这样情况应该会有所好转。

别说长道短

没有人喜欢在背后说人坏话的人。你也许是校园八卦的活跃人物，但每个人都会开始讨厌你的所作所为。每散播一次流言蜚语，你的可信度就会大打折扣。

别高傲自大

这个世界容不下过分自负的人。你完全没有理由瞧不起别人，所以不要带着一种纡尊降贵的态度。每个人都有脑子，你并不清楚他人有多大的真本事。