同伴压力

Your friends and other kids you know whoare the same age—your peers—are people yourage or close to it who have experiences andinterests similar to yours. They influence youby the way they dress and act， things they’reinvolved2 in，andtheattitudestheyshow.

Peer influence isn’t all bad. Amongpeers you can find friendship and acceptance.Peers can also set plenty of good examples foreach other. Your peers listen and give youfeedback3 as you try out new ideas anddiscuss problems.

Your peer group gives you opportunities totry out new social skills. Getting to know lots ofdifferent people， such as classmates orteammates， gives you a chance to learn how toexpand4 your circle of friends， buildrelationships， and work out differences.

Sometimes， though， the stresses in yourlife can actually come from your peers.They may pressure you into doingsomething you’re uncomfortable with. Thispressure may be expressed openly or moreindirectly. The pressure to conform5 can bepowerful and hard to resist6. Peer pressurecan influence a person to do something thathas serious consequences7.

It’s not always easy to resist negativepeer pressure. Listen to your gut8. If you feeluncomfortable， it means that somethingabout the situation is wrong for you.

There’s no magic to standing up topeer pressure， but it does take courage—yours. Learn to feel comfortable saying“no”. With good friends you should neverhave to offer an explanation or apology.But if you feel you need an excuse for，think up a few lines.

If a situation seems to be difficult todeal with， don’t hesitate9 to get anadult’s help.

你的朋友们和你认识的其他同龄的孩子们，即你的同伴，是与你年龄相仿或相近的人，他们有着与你相似的经历和兴趣。这些同龄人通过他们的衣着打扮和行为举止、他们所参与的事情以及他们表现出的态度来影响你。

同伴的影响并不全是坏事。在同伴中，你可以找到友谊和接纳。同伴之间也可以为彼此树立很多好榜样。当你尝试新想法和讨论问题时，你的同伴会倾听并给予你反馈。

你的同伴群体给了你尝试新社交技能的机会。认识很多不同的人，比如同学或队友，让你有机会学习如何扩大朋友圈，建立关系，解决分歧。

然而，有时，你生活中的压力实际上可能来自你的同伴。他们可能会迫使你做一些让你不舒服的事情。这种压力也许是公开表现出来的，也可能是更间接地表现出来的。顺从的压力可能是强大而难以抗拒的。同伴压力会影响一个人做一些有严重后果的事情。

抵抗负面的同伴压力并不总是那么容易。听从你的直觉吧。如果你感到不舒服，这意味着这种情况对你来说有些不对劲。

顶住同伴压力不需要什么魔法，但它确实需要勇气———你的勇气。你要学会心安理得地说“不”。和好朋友一起你永远没必要做出解释或道歉。但是，如果你觉得你需要一个借口，那就想几句。

如果情况看起来很难处理，请毫不犹豫地寻求成年人的帮助。