我想告诉年轻时的自己

李子沐

Looking back at my younger years， I amsometimes amazed at how life has turned out.Nothing  is  exactly  what  I  had  originallyplanned for. The only thing that stays the sameis who I am， my values， and my interests. If Icould  go back in time  and hang  out with myyounger self for a day， heres what I would tellher.

1. Everything happens for a reason.

Without  mistakes  and  failure，  you  wouldnever  have  learned. Without  pain，  you  wouldnever have grown. Once you understand this，you  will  know  that  everything  comes  in  toserve a purpose. So dont stress or think thatlife is unfair， because everything happens for areason. And  only  time  will  tell  what  it  willteach us.

2. Focus on one thing at a time. You canhave it all but not all at once.

It is not surprising that many of us are do-ing too many things at once. We need to makeends meet. But if you are working three jobs ata time， it is not likely that you will succeed atany of them. You have to keep your eyes on thebig picture. You have to ask yourself what ex-actly  do you want to  achieve  for the next 10years？ Focus on one thing  at a time. Achieveyour goals one by one.

3. You  can  plan  ahead，  but  your  planwill definitely change when the time comes.

You  can  plan  ahead  because  sometimes

回首年輕的时候，有时我会惊讶于生活的变迁。一切都不是我最初计划的样子，唯一不变的是我自己、我的价值观和我的兴趣。如果我能回到过去和年轻时的自己漫步一整天，下面就是我要对自己说的。

1.一切事情都有原因。

要是没有错误和失败，你就不会学到东西；要是没有痛苦，你就不会长大。一旦你明白了这些，你就知道了一切事情都是为了某种目的而发生。所以不要紧张或者认为生活不公平，因为一切事情都有原因，只有时间能诉说教会了我们什么。

2.一次只关注一件事。你将会拥有一切，但不能一次就全部实现。

我们中有很多人会同时做超多事情，这并不奇怪，我们需要养家糊口。但如果你同时做 3 份工作，每份工作你都不可能做好。你要着眼于大局，问问自己未来10年究竟想要达到什么目标。一次只做一件事，让目标一个接一个实现。

3.你可以提前计划，但计划没有变化快。

你可以提前做好计划，因为有时提前做

planning ahead can give you a clearer direction of where you want to go. However， plans will almost always change， so be prepared！

4. Trust your instincts.

Dont  worry  too  much  about  a  decision you have to make. Just do what feels right. You know what you want. You might consult other people. But  deep  down，  you  know  what  you want. Do  what  makes  you  happy. Because  at the  end  of the  day，  even  if you  follow  logic， you will want to quit and follow your heart.

5. Its  okay  to  be  unsure  about  your purpose in life.

You might be graduating or have hit a turn- ing point with your career. You might feel a bit lost and unsure of where to go. Its okay. Go out  there  and  try  as  many  different  things  as you can. Dont ever feel like youre wasting your time. Enjoy the journey. Dont rush. Ev- ery  little  path  will  lead  you  somewhere. And looking back， you will be able to connect the dots. It will all make sense.

6. Dont try too hard with people.

Dont worry if you feel like its hard to make new  friends. Just be yourself and be  as open as you can. It might take a while until you find new best friends and a mate for life， but when you do， you will know it. Its not hard work. So， just do your thing and be yourself.

7. Take of leap of faith in yourself.

Youve got nothing to lose but everything to gain. If you fail， youll become smarter; Ifyou succeed， youll gain even more self- confi- dence and the emotional and financial rewards. See life  as  a progressive journey. And youll most  certainly  achieve  anything  you  set  your mind to.

計划能让你更加明确自己前进的方向。然而计划总是会变，所以你要有心理准备！

4.相信自己的直觉。

做决定时不要过于担心，就做你认为对的事，你知道自己想要什么。你可能要咨询他人，但内心深处你知道自己想要什么。做让你开心的事，因为到最后，即使你的决定符合逻辑也会想放弃，然后追随你的心。

5.生活目标不明确也没关系。

你可能正面临毕业或事业遇到转折点，你可能会感觉有点迷失、找不到方向，没关系，走出去尽可能多尝试不同的事情。不要觉着自己是在浪费时间。享受过程，不要着急，每条路都会把你带向远方。回首时你就能把点点滴滴联系在一起，发现一切都有意义。

6.与人交往不能强求。

如果你感觉很难交到新朋友也不必担心，只要做好你自己、尽可能真诚就可以。可能需要一段时间你才能找到新的最好的朋友和终生伴侣，但当你找到了你就知道，这一点也不难。所以你要做好自己的事、做好你自己。

7.提高自信。

你没什么可失去的，但你可以赢得一切。如果你失败了，你会变得更精明；如果你成功了，你会获得更多自信以及精神和金钱上的回报。把生活看成一个发展的过程，才最有可能做成你一心想做的事。