如何建立有益交流

Juno

人际关系是学习、工作和生活中的重要组成部分，良好的人际关系往往建立在良好的人际沟通上。沟通作为一个重要的人际交往技巧，在日常生活中的运用非常广泛，影响也很大。学会以下方法可以帮助我们进行更好的沟通。

1.Engage in verbal communication

The easiest way to meet people， is to start a conversation. Research shows that communication， even when required， actually makes us happier and have a more positive outlook on people generally. Be 1）assertive. Assertiveness is about talking about your thoughts and feelings in 2）appropriate and respectful ways. Be honest. Be 3）transparent with people about who you are. People can sense honesty， and it encourages them to trust you. Additionally， beginning a relationship with lies means those lies have to be maintained from then on， and increases the risk of the lie being exposed， compromising the relationship. Ask open-ended questions. Get people to talk about themselves. Not only does this enable sharing， trust and intimacy， but it helps you guide the conversation toward topics that are comfortable for you.

2.Listen

Listening is the first step to building a strong 4）rapport with others. It shows that we value who they are as well as what is being said. Some keys to good listening are： Maintain eye contact. This doesnt mean staring， but it does mean focusing your attention on the companion as opposed to your phone or a person across the room. Maintain appropriate body language. Dont 5）fidget or check your watch. Nod when the other person makes a relevant point. Your body language can help 6）reinforce confidence in your companion. Dont interrupt. Let the other person finish before asking “May I ask/add something？” You can， however， show that you are listening by nodding and making affirming noises， like “Uh-huh，” or saying something like， “I see.” Keep an open-mind. Demonstrate that you respect the other person， in spite of points on which you may not agree. Dont let fear or bias guide your communication.

3.Resolve conflicts in healthy ways

Conflict， even between like-minded people， is inevitable， and when we are 7）frustrated， it can be easy to say things and act in ways that reflect that frustration and not our values. In order to resolve conflict constructively， there are several ways in below： Avoid aggressive body action （such as pointing in someones face， standing too close， rolling the eyes， etc.） or language. Ask questions and present views fairly. Always remind the other person that you respect his views and the right to have them.

1.进行对话交流

与人成为朋友最简单的方法，就是开始交流。研究表明，与人沟通，即使有时是强制要求，实际上也会让我们更快乐，对他人有更积极的看法。与人交流要自信。自信是指以適当和尊重的方式谈论你的想法和感受。与人交流要诚实。对他人坦诚地表达出真实的自己。人们可以感受到诚实，这反过来会鼓励他们信任你。此外，以谎言开始一段关系意味着这些谎言必须从此持续下去，这增加了谎言被揭穿的风险，对关系不利。与人交流要提出开放式问题。让人们谈论自己，这不仅有助于实现分享、信任和亲密的关系，还可以帮助你将对话引导到适合你的话题。

2. 倾听

倾听是与他人建立良好关系的第一步。这表明我们重视他们是谁以及他们所说的内容。良好倾听的关键是：保持眼神交流——这并不意味着盯着对方看，但它确实意味着将注意力集中在同伴身上，而不是你的手机或另一边的人;保持适当的肢体语言——不要坐立不安或检查手表，当对方提出相关观点时点头，你的肢体语言可以帮助加强同伴的信心;不要中途打断他人——让对方说完，然后再问“我可以问/补充一些东西吗”，你可以通过点头和发出肯定的声音来表明你正在倾听，比如“嗯”，或者说“我明白了”;保持开放的心态——尽管你可能不同意这些观点，但你应尊重对方，不要让恐惧或偏见引导你的沟通。

3. 以健康的方式解决冲突

即使是志同道合的人之间，冲突也是不可避免的。当我们感到沮丧时，我们的言行很容易反映这种挫折感，而这不是我们真实的价值观。为了建设性地解决冲突，或可尝试以下几种方式：避免攻击性的肢体动作（如指着别人的脸、站得太近、翻白眼等）或语言;公平地提出问题和观点;始终提醒对方，你尊重他的观点和拥有这些观点的权利。

4）rapport [r??p?：（r）] n. 融洽;和谐

5）fidget [?f?d??t] v. 坐立不安;烦躁

6）reinforce [?ri??n?f??s] v. 加固;加强