Is There Anything We Can Do When We're Hurting?

2018-01-23byKayHeitsch

疯狂英语·初中天地 2018年2期

by Kay Heitsch

翻译：寒星

“祝你天天开心！”这样的祝福语见得不少吧？但其实天天开心这样的理想状态是很难达成的，生活总会有波折，人的情绪也会反反复复。心情低落的时候，你是怎么度过的呢？听听凯的分享吧。

Is there anything we can do to help ourselves when we are hurting? From personal experience, I think there is.

If we’re feeling down, I believe it works out best to turn on some good music, read some1)uplifting books,exercise, and be around people who are happy.

I remember well when our son Todd died. I did everything I could to fill my mind with2)positive things. I listened to good music and positive tapes that would help me feel better3)mentally. I even took up4)jogging and joined a fun5)fitness group to feel better physically.6)Clinical7)depression runs on both sides of my family. I knew I could not afford to open the door and go down that depressing path. I had to be8)proactive!The choice was mine!

I could have sat around feeling sorry for myself, but who would have been helped from that? Certainly not me! I could have been around other people who were down too. After all,9)misery loves10)company. I’m not saying to tell nobody about things that hurt us. But spending an11)excessive amount of time talking about them is depressing, not only to oneself, but for others too.

I also started to reach out to help other people. I went to nursing homes注1,group homes注2and also had12)foster kids. When I got my mind off of myself and reached out to others I was helped and so were they.

So is there anything we can do to help ourselves when we’re hurting? I believe from personal

experience there is.

当我们感到受伤时，可以做些什么来帮助自己摆脱悲伤吗？以我的个人经验来说，我认为我们可以。

感到情绪低落的时候，我相信最佳的方式是放几首美妙的音乐，读几本鼓舞人心的书籍，锻炼身体，和快乐的人待在一起。

我清晰地记得我们的儿子托德离世那时，我竭尽所能在自己的脑子里填满乐观的东西。我听好听的音乐和积极正面的录音带，它们能让我在精神上感觉好一些。我甚至开始慢跑，加入一个有趣的健身团体，好让自己的身体也好受一些。几近临床的抑郁症萦绕着我们两边的家庭。我深知自己不能就这样打开门走上这条抑郁之路，我也负担不起。我必须主动出击！选择权在我自己手上！

我本可以无所事事，自怜自伤，但是这样能给谁带来好处？当然不会是我！我也完全可以跟其他情绪低落的人在一起，毕竟同病相怜。我并不是说我们不能向别人倾诉那些让我们悲伤的事情，然而花过多的时间谈论这些事情其实是件很压抑的事情，不仅仅对说的人而言如此，对听的人亦如此。