Well—Behaved Kids Are Suffering Inside

2016-11-01童家鑫

第二课堂(校外活动版) 2016年9期

童家鑫

导读：懂事的孩子不断讨好与顺从，内心却压抑着愤怒。

Most Chinese parents always tell their kids，“Sweetie， you should be well-behaved and be a good kid.” It sounds like being a good kid is honorable because it matches parentsexpectations. So， lots of kids work hard on behaving to make their parents happy. Day after day， those kids start to have no respect for their own feelings. They are afraid of showing their own needs and have a nice appearance but are empty inside.

Why do parents ask their kids to be well-behaved？ The parents were taught this by their parents. They just pass it down to the next generation without thinking about the side effects. Second， it helps save time and energy. Parents can feel relaxed and at ease if the kids are well-behaved and do what they are told to do. They praise their kids if they do well and beat them up when they are “naughty”. Third， it makes the parents feel good about themselves if their kids see them as a god or a ruler. Fourth， the parents never treat their kids as equals. They believe that they are above their kids. Some even think they have given their kids life， so they can take it back. Thats why some parents beat their kids to death when they are not “good”. One more reason is that the parents cant accept the fact that they are not perfect. So， if their kids are well-behaved， they think people may see them as well-educated and perfect.

What happens to the kids when they grow up？ They usually become nice people. They dont show their anger when theyre upset， they make others happy， they devote their lives to other people. But， most of the time， they dont get enough respect in return. They feel tired and hurt inside but cant and wont tell anybody. At last， they may become extremely sick.

Kids are supposed to play and have fun. Be with them and spend time with them instead of turning them into a robot. Let them discover the world.