如何交朋友

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Need to know how to make friends? One word:attitude! Learn how to make friends simply by adjusting a few “downers” in your attitude.

Steps:

1. Try to look on the bright side of things. Smile at everybody,which will show people what a fun person you are.

2. Be positive and fill your speech with uplifting words. Never make an insulting joke to get attention. Companions are courteous and complimentary.

3. Have confidence and dont slouch when you walk. Try to always have a fun time.

4. Make sure you are organized and not sloppy because when you are sloppy,people are not going to like the real you and they will judge you by the way you look and / or the things you have.

5. If anybody asks you a question,answer in a friendly and polite way.

6. Be sincerely interested in what others have to say. Look them in the eye. Listen carefully. Ask questions. Empathize. Laugh (with them,not at them). Be good company.

7. Look for groups in your area which do something you are interested in—you could learn a new skill and meet like-minded people. The first thing on making friends is never do things you do not like to do. This may cause you to lose one friend, but it will also give you a lot of friends for sticking up for the things that you like and the things you dont like.

Tips:

Mainly,just be yourself. If people dont like you when youre yourself, maybe you shouldnt be around them.

Always try to have fun and enjoy yourself,which will radiate externally!

Consider doing community service in your area. This is a great way to meet people.

Call your friends at least once a week to check on them and see how theyre doing. Theyll be happy you care. Tell them that you appreciate them.

Remember important things about them such as things they like and their birthdays.

If you two ever get in an argument,be the first to apologize. Even if youre not sorry,at least apologize for getting into a fight with them. Then,without interrupting them,allow them to tell you why they got mad at you,and what they think you should do about it.

Remember,never leave old friends because you like someone else more. This is a mistake.

Accept everyone for who they are and never bring anyone down or try to change someone (especially if theyve done nothing to hurt or offend you). This communicates insecurity.

Seek out “true” friends. A false friend will destroy rather than build up a relationship.

Be a “true” friend, faithful through thick and thin,over time and distance,in fair weather and foul. Always love,always hope,always persevere.

Listen to others. Its better to be quiet than to say too much.

Never,ever blurt out a friends secret! Not only would you lose your friends trust,but the trust of everyone around you. Would you tell a secret to a girl who just the other day blabbed on her best friend? Be as loyal as a puppy to your friends,theyll respect you for it.

Always trust your gut feelings about people. If you feel someone (as nice as they may seem) is not the right person to make friends with, then move along.

Warnings:

Dont try to join a group which requires initiation,because you know theyre just messing with you!

Dont be afraid to stand up for what is right. If you know one of your friends is doing something that you know is wrong, confront them. If youre a friend,you wont let them do the wrong thing.

Never give your social security number,phone number,your home address,or a spare key to your house to someone you just met or recently made friends with.

需要知道如何交朋友吗？一个单词：态度！只需要调整你态度中的一些“沮丧情绪”就可以学会交朋友。

措施：

1.努力去看事情中光明的一面。对每个人微笑，这将向人们展示你是一个非常快乐的人。

2.要积极并让你的言谈中充满振奋人心的话语。永远不要开侮辱性的玩笑来引起别人的注意。同时要有礼貌并多赞美别人。

3.当散步时要自信，不要表现出懒散的迹象。努力过得开心。

4.当你过分多愁善感时要努力使自己的行为有分寸而不要显得太随便，人们不会喜欢一个真正的你，并且他们会根据你的表面现象或你拥有的东西来对你做出判断。

5.如果有人问你问题，要友好而礼貌地给予回答。

6.要真诚地对别人说的事情表示兴趣。看着他们的眼睛。细心聆听。问问题。神会。笑（朝他们笑，但不嘲笑他们）。成为一名出色的同伴。

7.在你附近寻找一个加入其中可以做自己喜欢事情的团体——你可以学会一种新技能并会见到具有相似意向的人。交朋友时首先要做的事情是永远不要做你不喜欢做的事情。这或许会导致你失去一位朋友，但也会使你结交一大批与你有同样爱好或不同爱好的朋友。

建议：

首先要保持自己的特色。如果人们不喜欢保持特色的你，或许你不应该呆在他们周围。

努力使自己过得开心，这将使你在外表上容光焕发！

考虑在你附近做些社区服务活动。这将是会见人们的主要途径。

一周给你的朋友至少通一次电话来沟通信息和看一下他们在做什么事情。对你的关注他们会非常高兴。告诉他们你对他们的感激。

铭记他们生活中重要的事情，如他们喜欢的东西或他们的生日。

如果你们两个曾经发生争执，要首先道歉。即使你不说对不起，至少要因与他们发生争执而表示歉意。然后，不要再打搅他们，允许他们告诉你为什么他们会对你发疯，以及他们认为你应该为此做什么。

切记，永远不要因为你更加喜欢别人而抛弃老朋友。这是一个错误。

对每个人的个性给予认可，永远不要打击任何人或努力试图去改变某个人（尤其是他们并没有做伤害或冒犯你的事情时）。这会传达出不安全感。

寻求“真正的”朋友。虚伪的朋友将会毁坏友谊而不是建立友谊。

做一名“真正的”朋友，无论生活如意还是不如意都要忠贞不渝，跨越时间和距离，无论好天气或坏天气。永远付出你的爱，总是充满希望，坚持不懈。

聆听别人的意见。保持沉默要比多说话更好。

永远不要脱口说出朋友的秘密！这样你不仅会失去朋友的信任，而且还会失去周围每个人的信任。你会向一个前几天还泄露她最好朋友秘密的女孩吐露自己的心声吗？对朋友的忠诚应该像狗对待主人一样，他们会因此而尊重你。

永远信任自己对别人的内在感情。如果你感到某人（看起来非常善良）并不是可以交朋友的合适人选，那么就继续向前吧。

警告：

不要努力试图加入一个需要渊博学识的团体，因为你知道它只会使你困窘。

不要害怕坚持正确的观点。如果你知道你的朋友正在做你认为是错误的事情，要去制止他们。如果你是一位朋友，你不会允许他们做错事的。

永远不要说出你的社会安全号码、电话号码、家庭住址，或将房子的多余钥匙送给你刚认识或刚成为你朋友的某个人。